Trunetta Atwater | Louisville, KY based Boudoir and Wedding Photographer

by Trunetta Atwater

Gwen | Boudoir Photography, Louisville, Kentucky

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Loving Herself | Gwen's Boudoir Experience

I get emotional every time I open my computer to write this story. I have to stop and take a step back because I refuse to mess it up. It's no secret, God has given me a unique gift to reach the soul of women through boudoir photography and has challenged me to tell their stories to empower others. As with the majority of the boudoir sessions I've photographed before, at the end of the day when it's all said and done, I end up with a response like:

"Thank you so much for today. I feel so uplifted. I have never felt beautiful like I did today." - Gwen

Meet Gwen. I've known her my entire life, our moms are best friends, so by default we began that way. Thirty 33+ years later we are closer than we've ever been. I want to thank her for allowing me to photographer her and share her story. 

 "I going to be on that wall. I'm going to do it. I want to be on your wall!!!" - Gwen

For years she's been building the courage to do a boudoir session, but like most it's far to much outside of the box. What will people think of me? How will they respond? Let me lose some weight first? I don't have the courage to do that. We as women come up so many excuses not to find freedom in ourselves, until we are forced to. 

Gwen, eloped and married her high school sweetheart on senior skip day, May 4, 2001. A day, I'm sure she will never forget. Fast forward 13 years later, July, 4th 2014, her sweetheart, her husband, and the father of her two beautiful children was tragically killed in a car accident. The reality of life and death changed her life completely that day. It's been two years, 1 month, and 11 days since the day Gwen instantly became a widow, her life partner was gone. I myself still have a hard time wrapping my mind around it, so I can only imagine how she feels. I've witness this woman hold it together for herself, her children, his family, and her family when it seemed everything was falling apart. Some days are good, she's taking baby steps to move on with life. However, some days are bad, in her mind, no one understands. The load of missing him, helping her children through the tragedy, and adjusting to being a single parent and widow becomes very overwhelming. She screams, she cries, in the car away from the kids is where it happens the most. She has to be strong for them though. Women, we're the strong ones right?

Sometimes even I don't have the words... Gwen, you ok? 

"I'll be strong." - Gwen

Inside, on a bad day, her heart is hurting from the pain. However, the strong women I know she is, the woman I've witnessed her be, she wipes those tears, pulls it together, goes inside and resumes mommy duty as usually. Her kids are her life, her love, her everything and nothing will come between that. But sometimes she feels she can't do it alone, she constantly going non-stop.

Like Gwen, we all have a story of life and life changing situations that remind us of the importance of not taking anything for granted and loving who we are to the fullest. 

Her entire life, Gwen, struggled with loving who she is until now! She was forced to recognize that life is to short to worry about the trivial things. She's reached a point in her life where nothing is held back. Not her feelings and emotions, spirituality, her physical appearance, or even her confidence. She learning to accept the things she cannot change, embracing it, and truly loving herself for the first time ever.

Her fancy experience was a moment of relaxation and release. If you know Gwen, like I know her, she's always had a hard time relaxing and releasing. On that day, she did it! She LET GO and began to learn to LOVE HERSELF! Despite everything she's dealing with, in that moment it happened. We laughed, we cried, she sang "Like a Virgin" by Madonna. Touched for the very first time... she felt beautiful. 

"Show 'em to everybody. I don't care." - Gwen
"I'm so excited about seeing all these photos and sharing them with everyone." - Gwen

Loving herself and encouraging someone else with her story is the first step of healing.

I love you GWEN!

Trunetta

 

Now watch her dab! -xoxo

Feyonce at Sea: The Party Part #2

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Welcome, to part 2 of Brandy's "Feyonce" Bachelorette Party at Sea! Of course the term "Feyonce" is coined from the combination of fiancé and Beyoncé. Brandy is a super Beyoncé fan and 2 months away from being newlywed, the only way to make it right was to get the squad in "Formation". We've been planning this party/getaway since August 2015. Let me tell you, this had to be the absolute best group of women to travel with. So much so, that I can't wait to do it again. 

This trip was full of little surprises for Brandy and the Party. The party knew of Brandy's surprises, but they had no ideal of the treats Tonya and I had in store for them. Traveling on the Carnival Victory, 23 women set out on a weekend journey to Nassau, Bahamas! Brandy begged for a custom shirt to celebrate this event, I finally gave in and allowed her to get one. Little did she know, we already had shirts made for her and part of the squad. With the Feyoncé theme in mind, we surprised her with a "Feyoncé, #drunkinlove" shirt and ours read, "We Bé All Night, #justdrunk". Of course we needed shirts for our beach photo op, because going to the Bahamas without a epic photo op is boring. In addition to our custom shirts, each lady received a "Formation" Survival Kit. The kit included goodies, all having a Beyonce song to describe the treat.  We stopped by the beach, got in formation like the Knowles women, ran through the sand to channel our inner Baywatch, and partied 7/11, well maybe more like 11/7. Ms. Pat had us all in tears during the private cocktail hour. We toasted the Bride to be, celebrated in her happiness, gave her lots of advice, prayers, and well wishes. 

In between all of our bachelorette party shenanigans, we all had the opportunity to eat good, dance, ride the waterslide like kids, lay in the sun to enhance our melanin, laugh, live, and love! So here are a few pictures of the fun!

Enjoy! 

-Tru

P.S. I'm planning a Fancy girls trip to NYC for Fall of 2017, be on the lookout for details.

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Feyonce at Sea Part #1 | Louisville Beauty and Boudoir Photographer

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Okay, this is my best friend Brandy. She's marrying her prince in a few weeks. We had the opportunity to celebrate her being a bachelorette at sea, hence "Feyonce at Sea"! Let me be first to tell you, this chick here deserves to be loved the way that man loves her! I have watched how their relationship truly made her complete. So as a Feyonce, it's only fitting that you, dust your shoulders off, let your hair down, and SLAAAAAYYYYYYYY a Feyonce session of course!

Drunk in love is she and she ain't sorry!

Part 1: Brandy's Party at Sea!

Enjoy!

#fancythat

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Desteny | Senior Class of 2016

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I've waited at least four years, her mom has waited over 17 years for this session to take place, and boy was she surprised. Saturday what she thought was a day out with her mom and sister, turned into a day or lots of fun, high winds, and jokes as we took our journey across Nashville for a few hours for her senior portrait session.

Meet Desteny, a class of 2016 at La Vergne High. There are many words I could say to describe her, based on what I know. I could tell you so many stories from our experience this past Saturday. However, the one thing that stood out to me the most was Saturday after the session, we went back to their house to process images to proof. As I sat there, processing images, Desteny walked through the room and asked for permission to use her mom's computer. After permission was granted she told her mom, she was about to sit down and apply for more scholarships! I sat there in AWE! WOW! That's a young lady with ambition, a young lady with plan. Her mom didn't have to tell her, she had already been taught to work hard, study hard, and play harder. Her college of choice has already been selected, The University of Memphis, which also happens to be my alma mater and I am excited for her! As she prepares for her future, I am confident that Desteny will continue to walk out her senior year with grace and ambition. She is destined for success and I truly wish her the best.

Take a look...

#fancythat 

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Keep Me Cozy | Trunetta Atwater Louisville Lifestyle Photographer

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Nothing screams keep me cozy like a few inches of snow, a cup of hot tea, and slouchy sweaters. On snow days in Louisville, get cozy before you go out to play in the snow! 

Occassion: Snow day, Jenna's Birthday

MUA: Leah Rich

Happy Birthday Jenna!

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Our 1st Christmas in Louisville | Trunetta Atwater Photography

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It has become tradition for me to photograph Jaxon on Christmas day. With each session we go through a series of emotions to get the "perfect shot". For our first Christmas in Louisville, I figured today wouldn't be any different. After hours of video games, breakfast, lunch, and Christmas snacks in between, I finally pulled my boy away from the tube and put on his new outfit to take him out for his annual Christmas photos. 

I know him so well I can read his mind! Keep reading to find out.

Mom really, I would rather be inside playing my game.

Are we done yet?

His I don't want to do this stance.

Thinking of every excuse not to take this pictures.

Excuse #1: Mom it is really cold out here!!! 

After 15 minutes of whining and complaining from my 6 year old I was done! This attitude would be the story of our 2015 Christmas pictures and I accepted that. So I walked away, went into the house, put my camera up and started watching TV. Ten minutes later, Jaxon comes out of his room, with his other new sweater, hat, and coat on. He grabbed his new scooter and said, "ok mom I'm ready to give it another try." I don't know if he wanted to wear the other sweater or if he felt bad because he wasn't cooperating. If I had to guess, I would be the latter. I grabbed my camera, he was willing, and we tried again.

I knew he had it in him, that cute smile he gives that absolutely warms my heart. Little did he know I wanted more. Watch this!

Me: Hey LOVER BOY!!! (He came home from school one day and told me he had six girlfriends and he was a lover boy.)

Jax: MOMMA!!!

Jax: Ok, that is it! I'm not doing this anymore! 

Jax: I just can't believe you called me a "Lover Boy" in front of Granny and Grandaddy!

Me: Yes I did, because 20 years from now, I would like for him to look back at what it's like to be a cute 6 year old, in a city of new beginnings, in a loving household, on Christmas day! We are truly blessed and his smile, attitude, and emotions doesn't can't get any better than this! 

Oh I snapped a few shots of the rest of the family too! I hope you enjoy seeing this as much as we enjoyed this entire day. Merry Christmas! -Tru

Model Call | Trunetta Atwater | Louisville Boudoir Photographer

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Hey! I've pretty much taken the year off transitioning from Jackson to Louisville and getting acquainted with my new environment. Well, if you've followed my work in the past 5 years you know how important photographing women is to me. I have amazing plans for 2016 and I am excited to share the details with you soon. I would like to end 2015 searching for the next BIG thing that will happen to Fancy and YOU could be apart of it! 

MODEL CALL

  • I'm SEEKING 7 UNIQUE WOMEN
  • Must be born 100% Femal
  • Must be 25 years or older
  • Sign a full model release
  • Be open to creative expression through make-up, wardrobe, and portraits
  • Be willing to provide own wardrobe with style inspiration assigned by photographer
  • Be willing to travel to Louisville, KY for the session

What you will receive

  • A complimentary portrait session + professional make-up
  • Future saving on products and digitals when the project is complete
  • A life changing experience

SERIOUS INQUIRES ONLY

Please provide two images of yourself for review (1 headshot, 1 full body).

This opportunity IS NOT for you if you are looking for free images.

This opportunity IS for you love the art of creative expression and you are willing to help the artist bring the vision to life. 

THE PORTRAIT PROJECT

Over the next few weeks, I will be releasing a description of the models needed for the project. Each shoot will be a boudoir setting. Some sessions may require revealing clothing and or some implied nudity. If you fit the script submit details on why you would be great for this project.

WOMAN #1: SILENT: Silently suffer from a mental disorder such as bipolar, depression, schizophrenia, and you are maintaining and functioning in society normally but you're ready to shine light  on the real issues of mental illness as a women. 

WOMAN #2: THE REBEL: Must be 30-50 years old. An au naturale hippie at heart. Must be the type of women that goes against all odds to live a life "people" didn't expect you to live.

WOMAN #3:

WOMAN #4:

WOMAN #5:

WOMAN #6:

WOMAN #7:

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There will be one model selected from each category. You will be notified either way. Thank you for your interest!

- Tru


CYBER MONDAY SALE | LOUISVILLE BOUDOIR PHOTOGRAPHER

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CYBER MONDAY SALE SAVE 44% OFF ($225 VALUE)

ADD PROFESSIONAL MAKE UP $75 (DUE DAY OF SESSION)

2 HOUR BOUDOIR PORTRAIT SESSION (IMAGES PURCHASED SEPARATELY)

IN STUDIO ONLY (1860 MELLWOOD AVE. SUITE 130, LOUISVILLE, KY 40206)

APPOINTMENT MUST BE SCHEDULED BEFORE JANUARY 15, 2016

NON-REFUNDABLE • NON-TRANSFERABLE


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TO SCHEDULE YOUR SESSION COMPLETE THE CONTACT FORM TO THE LEFT AND HIT THE BY NOW BUTTON ABOVE. AFTER YOUR PURCHASE IS COMPLETE YOU WILL RECEIVE AN EMAIL CONFIRMATION WITHIN 48 HOURS TO SCHEDULE A PHONE CONSULTATION AND APPOINTMENT DATES.

NOW BOOKING Black Friday Mini Sessions | The Cumberland House | Jackson, TN

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NOW BOOKING for BLACK FRIDAY NOV. 27th MINI SESSIONS. LOCATION: THE CUMBERLAND HOUSE, 428 North Cumberland Street, Jackson, TN 38301.

$50 non-refundable deposit to reserve your portrait session. The deposit will be applied to the session package listed above. The remaining balance is due on Nov 25th. Sessions are limited. 

I had planned not to work while traveling this Holiday season, but my clients are the best and I didn't want to let them down. So I opened up a day for mini's. This is the last mini session event for Jackson, TN for 2015. BOOK NOW! :) 

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Working with a professional make-up artist | Louisville, KY Wedding, Lifestyle, and Boudoir Photographer

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When I first started photographing women, rather it be boudoir, beauty, or even brides, I didn't really give any thought to hiring a professional make-up artist. Everything about boudoir and beauty photography was new to me, so I had to learn the ropes. In the beginning most of my clients would do their own make-up or I would use my own make-up back to slap on some eye shadow. LOL. Ok I didn't literally slap it on, I took my time and it turned out decent. For weddings, brides usually had on some type of make-up anyway so it wasn't a big deal. However, none of it compared to the finished product of when I began working with professional MUAs. 

Here are my top four reasons why you, photographers and consumers, should work with a professional make-up artist before any portrait session, creative project, or event when you want a flawless look.

1. Knowledge and Skill: Pro MUAs are skilled in their kraft. Applying make-up is more than "slapping" on some lipstick... seriously. They know the ins and outs of the best products to use for your skin type, how to properly prep for your skin texture and match skin tones, as well as how to properly apply and deliver your desired look. 

2. Passion: All Pro MUAs that I've worked with are passionate about their craft! There is something about working with someone full of passion that gives more meaning to your beauty enhancing experience. All things make-up makes a pro grin from ear to ear. Your face is their canvas of creativity. I am a firm believer that passion leads to purpose. The MUAs I have had the privilege to work with allows their passion of make-up as a beauty enhancement for women to lead their purpose of helping women feel good about themselves. Make-up done right is an immediate self-esteem booster and passionate MUAs take pride in knowing they've made someone's day better. Having a bad day? Try red lip color!  

3. Enhance: Make-up enhances what is already beautiful! As a photographer, I find beauty in everyone before the make-up even becomes apart of the equation. A MUA uses her knowledge, skill, talent, and passion to polish your desired look. "But, I don't wear make-up." I've heard this objection several times before. Pro MUAs know apply natural looks without you looking like you even have on make-up. Rather step outside of the box for a bold, sultry look? No problem, make-up has the power to give you a smokey eye, bigger eyes, or even a cat eye.

4. Finished results: You don't have to worry about your make-up melting off of your face on a hot day. No worries about getting out of the chair looking like a clown (when done right). Pro-make up looks great on camera. You will leave feeling and looking 100% flawless.

This week I would like to highlight one of my absolute favorite MUAs of all time! We have worked with so many amazing women in the past 3 years. Her name is MIAFierce, she's the official MUA of Fancy! If I could use 2 words to describe her make-up artistry in addition to the points I listed above, they would be flawless and timeless. Not to mention she has a great spirit! She's hosting a class soon on Make-up Basics soon. If you want to learn how to apply the basics you should sign up by contacting Mia at 731-444-1585. Take a look at some of her work below! GO Team!!! #fancyfierce

Client: Ms. K

Location: Madison Hotel rooftop, Memphis, TN

Setting: Natural Light

MUA: MiaFierce Make-up Artistry

Mia in action!!!

Client: Mrs. Harrell and Bridesmaids

Location: Double Tree Hotel and Suites of Larue, Jackson, TN

The Fancy Fierce business elite headshot collection! 

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Meet Mia and her before and after transformation!!!


The Studio + Part 1 | Louisville, KY Wedding, Lifestyle, and Boudoir Photographer

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Have you ever worked on a project extremely important to you and after months it seems as if you're never going to get finished? Well yeah, that has been me for months. I have spent my entire summer traveling from Kentucky to Tennessee making an effort to spend time with my family and serving new and seasoned clients as I work towards transitioning my business. If you are new at following my "Fancy" life, via Instagram and Facebook, you may not have known that I've relocated to Louisville, KY! However, my friends tell me I'm home so much, Jackson, TN, that they don't believe I actually moved. They see me more now than I did when I lived there. So for most of the summer the studio space I leased months ago, to start my new journey, has been sitting there waiting on me to finish all the D.I.Y. projects I started in April! YIKES!

Don't panic! It will be well worth the wait!  

After months of summer fun, I spent a few days this week applying a few finishing touches to the space. This has by far been the biggest project I've ever worked on that included so many D.I.Y tasks!!! I decided it would be best to break down revealing "The Studio" into a three part serious! Why, because writing it all in one post would be rather lengthly. The thoughts, effort and love put into this space has been motivated by Faith. Everything has a meaning and I want to tell you about it. I also would like to share the D.I.Y. details of the make-over (what inspired the design and hot to work with a minimal budget). 

Let's begin!

The Studio + Part 1 | The Sneak Peek

Yesterday, I took my son into the studio to photograph him for his 6th birthday. He didn't quite cooperate like I expected, but the space did. Man oh man did I get super excited to see this all come together! Welcome to the studio located in the Mellwood Arts Center here in Louisville, KY! We will go into more detail in parts two and three. Until then, here are a few sneak peeks for your viewing pleasure!!! Enjoy!

Office + Client Meeting Area

Make-up + Dressing Room

A peek at the studio area! Did I mention I photograph boudoir? So of course there is a bed!

Do you like chandeliers? You will love this one! 

Oh, meet Jax, my smart, compassionate, and energetic six year old! 

Fancy That,

Tru

 

College Sweetheart Engagement | Tiffiney + Jerod | Louisville, KY Wedding, Lifestyle, and Boudoir Photographer

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August is a month full of back to school preparation and excitement. Going back to school for Tiffiney and Jerod just happened to be the beginning of their life time of love! These Love Birds both attended Lambuth University in Jackson, TN. They met one evening while hanging out with a few of their college friends. After connecting they would often see each other on campus, in the book store and cafeteria. His eye on her and her eye one him, the chemistry was mutual. 

For their engagement session, we were able to go back to Lambuth, now The University of Memphis Lambuth Campus. It was very clear that their love made a mark in this place. As soon as we walked in the bookstore, the manager immediately recognized the two love birds. They discussed their engagement and wedding in a few months. Being there bought back so many memories. I captured them as they reminisced. The experience was truly romantic. 

A sweet girl for Mississippi fell in love with a football player from Florida. He won her heart. It's been almost a year since the wedding! Their love is still winning! 

I met Tiffiney when I photographed her family back in early 2011. Thank you Tiffiney for allowing me to capture so many of you most important moments. 

Life goes on.

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It's been 5 months and 11 days since we moved to Louisville, yet my friends say they see me more now than they did when I was home. This past weekend was the first weekend I've spent in Louisville in 5 weeks. Yikes! Friday hit and my bags weren't packed. Now what? Well, believe it or not, I had a meltdown. I didn't realize letting go would be so difficult. Shouldn't I have realized this by now? I mean, it's been almost 5.5 months already! 

All of last week I decided to unplug from social media and news for a few weeks to refocus my mind on a few personal goals. It's been 10 days (with the exception of logging in this morning for my MUA MIA) and so much has happened. I'm proud to say, i've been eating clean (4 lbs down), exercising, setting and focusing on business goals, and spending lots of time with Jax and Quinton. It's been a breath of fresh air, no negativity, just us... living. Despite unplugging, after logging in this morning I realized life goes on with or without you. WOW! So in this life, how are you making a positive impact on others? 

-Tru

 

  

 

 

Rachael & Nakia: Lifestyles of the Monconduit and Wooden Family

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From NOLA to JACKSON10, the Monconduit-Wooden love began. Welcome to the lifestyle of the Monconduit-Wooden Family! Rachael and Nakia's union went down in the record books...

"Top 5 weddings in Peabody history" - Historic Peabody Staff 
"It was Magical!" - Rachael, The Bride

Magical indeed. Love from the Midsouth with a bit of a New Orleans twist, this wedding celebration left me speechless. If I could use only three words to describe the experience... "Culture of Love". That's it! This experience was a Culture of Love. A combination of New Orleans, LA and Bolivar, TN embraced the love for a traditional Catholic wedding, that was simple, classic, and luxurious. The ceremony was held at St. Mary's Catholic Church, followed by the reception at the Historic Peabody Hotel in Memphis, TN. Ending with a bang, The Michael Foster Project 2nd line band of New Orleans, LA led the parade from the Peabody to Beale Street. Giving the city of Memphis and Beale Street a sweet taste from the creole culture and Bourbon Street, New Orleans, LA. 

Selfie Darling

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HOLD UP! HOLD Up! Is this me? 

I get that reaction 99% of the time when I photograph other women. I've been photographed before and it is rather liberating. However I never imagined in a million years that I could make my self feel so good! Yesterday I set out on a mission to take a few self portraits. I guess you can call them selfies right? Well... I took a few selfies!!! Man oh man, I couldn't be more pleased! 

I'm a Self-Inspiration Model!!! Haha I just made that up.

My clients call me a Photo Therapist!

I'm a Professional Photographer!

 

I DID IT! I THOUGHT OF EVERY EMOTION THAT MAKES ME UNIQUE AND TRIED MY BEST TO EXPRESS IT ON CAMERA. I WANTED YOU TO SEE WHO I REALLY AM!

Hi! I'm Tru

I Enjoy Life!

I'm a Happy go Lucky country girl from TN with city girl dreams!

I want to work with you!

Wife Wisdom Wednesday: Love Language #3 - Receiving Gifts

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"If he liked it then he should've put a ring on it." -Beyonce
"Some people want it all
But I don't want nothing at all
If it ain't you, baby
If I ain't got you, baby
Some people want diamond rings
Some just want everything
But everything means nothing
If I ain't got you, yeah" - Alicia Keys
"You're all I need to get by." - Marvin Gaye
"We love so strong and so unselfishly
And I made a vow so I tell you now
I'm giving you the best that I got, baby
I bet everything on my wedding ring
I'm giving you the best that I got,
Givin' it to you baby" - Anita Baker

The lyrics from the four songs above, pretty much explain the gifts of love in a marriage life cycle. 

You know in the beginning, "the ring" is expected. After a few years, the ring has earned its keep, it signifies an everlasting sign of love, but being with your love is more important. Then at some point, the marriage begins to "go through" you know the hard times. You being to miss where you were in the beginning. If only things were like they use to be, you could get by. Now!!!! Y'all have made it through the storm, reflecting on the vows you made, betting everything on that wedding ring. GIVE IT THE BEST YOU GOT from this day forward!

LOVE LANGUAGE #3 RECEIVING GIFTS

"Visual symbols of love are more important to some people than to others." - Gary Chapman

Are you that girl who swoons over flowers being delivered to the office, or better yet, when your man is the one to surprise you at work, flowers in hand, prepared to take you to lunch? Are you that girl, who can't wait to show off that new handbag he got you for your birthday? Are you that girl who waits for him to say, "I'm all yours tonight, I've made plans just for us"? It's ok, not matter what. Receiving gifts, may just be your love language! You know, "us" on IG and FB can usually spot you out with all the pictures posted about the "gift"!!! Oh and those newly engaged, the best gift ever is to get that "RING", post it to IG, then celebrate, right? Right! 

Personally, I'm not a materialistic person, I think gifts are very nice, I even enjoy giving them, but I've always had a hard time receiving them. My mom always taught me, if someone gives you something, never turn it down, and say thank you. Why? Because they are giving to you out of love. That may be the only way that person knows how to express their love for you. And for that reason, you should be appreciative and receive it as a gift of their love. You may think, yeah I get it, but he only gave this to me because I was mad. Well, maybe he did, but at least he tried. Maybe he doesn't truly know and understand that you like to receive gifts outside of birthdays, holidays, and anniversaries. You are assuming that he should should know this, but have you communicated that with him? Did you let him know that it is important for him to validate is love by showering you with gifts every now and then? Probably not, if you did, I can guarantee it was in the heat of an argument and he wasn't listening. LOL!!! Sorry for laughing, it's funny, cause I've been there... In my mind. Without revealing my love language, I will go ahead and say receiving gifts is not my primary love language and there have been times when I thought to myself, he should know what I want by now. Thinking back, I never verbally expressed it!!! 

In the book "The 5 Love Languages" Chapman describes a few different scenarios on giving and receiving gifts. I won't go into details here, go get the book! However, the one that stuck out to me the most was THE GIFT OF SELF. It is important for my husband to be there, when I need to laugh, cry, smile. When I'm frustrated or when I am celebrating. I just need him there, by my side to hold my hand. To say, "I got you baby"or "It's going to be ok". HA!!! I don't think I've ever told him this. Even though he does a good job at it, I should probably tell him.

On the flip side, is receiving gifts your husband's love language? Have you been slacking on giving him material things or even the gift of you? Ask yourself WHY? If you are unsure or if he may have done something that has caused you to hold back, just remember

"It is more blessed to give than to receive." Acts 20:35   

Because at the end of the day, when you are meeting your spouses needs, he will meet yours in return. Always keep your communication open and clear. Don't deprive each other of the love you both deserve. HE LIKED IT. HE PUT A RING ON IT. GIVE IT THE BEST THAT YOU'VE GOT, BABY!!!

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-Tru

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And the winner is...

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Ok, so over the past 3 months, I have been working really hard trying to finish the new studio. I've tackled more DIY projects than I bargained for at one time. Each day I step into the new space and think how much God has blessed me to find my life's purpose and to have the opportunity to fulfill it even when I don't feel worthy enough. The other day, I was riding down the street, meditating, asking God if he could just give me a sign... You know, more confirmation that I'm on this journey because he sent me there. God said clearly, "Tru, I've given you enough signs. I am right here with you." My response was "Awh... OK..." *thinking to myself* I feel so stupid for even asking cause I already knew this. God has a sense of humor, he knew I would be asking anyway.  At that very moment I thought, "Well lets do this!" 

There are a few things on my goal list that I wanted to accomplish in the next few months, but being in a new city, I had no idea where to being. Until God showed me. I picked up a local magazine called "Today's Woman. Inside was everything I needed to start serving in my purpose and events to begin marketing my business. So, in about 4 weeks I plan to market Fancy to a group of women I've never met in a community that I adjusting too. I'm finalizing my branding and new marketing material, the studio is almost complete, and business plan is pretty much ready for execution! Therefore, I decided, there's nothing more rewarding than giving back to a community who has helped me succeed over the past 7 years.

This is why!!!

I have been so blessed and I want to encourage other women to walk by faith as they start or revitalize their careers. I'm fully aware of some to the hardships I had to endure along my journey, so I just want to be a blessing and give back. As a professional woman in business, your vision will excel when operating with excellence and professionalism. Your character and appearance is everything! Especially in service, you can be the best at what you do, but when people can't see it, potential clients will not believe it.  You know the saying goes

"Dress for the position you want, not for the position you have." 

There is absolutely nothing wrong with selfies, but when you are representing your business or marketing yourself in professional profiles such as LinkedIn, to potentially new clients or employers, you want to put you best foot forward!

If you didn't know me and you were in the market for a professional photographer, which photographer would you trust? The Selfie or The Pro Head Shot? Not being biased or anything, but I must say both are pretty cute! Shout out to my friend Megan with MegMc Photography for my headshot!

Now, what you've all been waiting for!!! Fancy over the past 4 years has developed an amazing reputation, that turns an ordinary portrait session for women, into a life changing experience! I'm not just saying that because I was chosen as leader of this movement, but it's pretty much a fact! So any opportunity I have to give back, I know it's going to be truly a blessing to those who receive it! The Business Elite Giveaway was inspired by my new adventures here in Louisville! My focus here is to continue to empower women through my gift of photography!!! Will you be 1 of 5 women to win? Here where the rules...

Posted to FB for 3 days, there were 41 qualifying entries. I wrote each name on cut out circles, folded them in half, put them in my "bad hair day hat" and drew them at random! I attempted to record the drawings with dubsmash but ummmmm, that failed. Any who, in no particular order, the winners are...........................

Congratulations!!!! I look forward to working with you all. I will be in touch tomorrow, via social media with further details!

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Tru

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Wife Wisdom Wednesday: Love Language #2 - Quality Time

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"I just want some quality time." 

"Going to church together isn't considered quality time."

"Make time!!!"

"You spend time with your friends, but you don't make time for me."

"We need time together when the kids aren't around."

"We don't spend time together anymore."

"I'M DONE TRYING!"

Does any of this already sound familiar? If it does, you are probably thinking... QUALITY TIME, does that even exist anymore? YES!!! IT DOES EXIST!!! Speaking from experience, I've been there, done that, and thought all of those things. Frustrated, mad, angry, demanding, and thinking I just want some time. We all do! Do does he!

Over the past 3 months My husband and I have spent more "Quality Time" together, than we have in the past 3 years. You may wonder 3 years, how is that possible? It's possible because life happens. Remember from last week the "in love" state only last about 2 years. So after that life happens.  Attention is on the baby, focusing on jobs, and building careers. Their hanging with their boys and you with your BFF all the time. You have problems with your family and it's stressing you, work stresses you, folks on social media getting on your nerves. You at church thinking, why are we here 10 times a week. You are back in school, your exam is tomorrow and you haven't started your writing assignment. LIFE. All these things matter, you try to find balance, but all you really want is to RUN AWAY and spend some "Quality Time" with your spouse. RIGHT? 

For us it's been 12 years and a lot has happened in our lives and relationship. In the past 3 months, we moved, transitioned to a new city, new job for him, and for me... Well right now I'm a "Homemaker ". It might sound bad for me to say this, but this move forced us to spend more time together. I must say this quality time is absolutely amazing! We left behind our family, friends, and businesses for a new beginning and there is no one here but us. Now all we have is time and we chose to spend it together. It's almost like the reset button was pressed. Man, where in the heck was this button 5 years ago?!?!?! Our priorities have been repositioned. We have finally figured out that we were missing out on each other. 

Quality time for is now a priority!!! We were forced into understanding this, however being able to understand your own or your partners love language of quality time is really simple. 

You want to know how? Here is the answer.

MAKE TIME!

It's just that simple. There is absolutely no way around it.

"The 5 Love Languages" discusses several ways of spending QT. These include, focused attention, quality conversation, and quality activities. One of my favorites is quality conversation. I love a good conversation with my husband. Since the move, he's been on 3rd shift the majority of the time. So we get to spend our uninterrupted time together in the mornings. He walks through the door after a long night. He is tired and I've missed him... a lot! I welcome him and usually ask "how was your night?" He answers with details on how rough or smooth the night went. Rather or not he met his numbers, and the progress he has made in developing his team. All the responses are exciting to me! I want to encourage him to do his best, share ideas, and listen. Our conversation is a two way street, we discuss our personal goals, financial goals, our family goals too. I get to express to him, my thoughts on my purpose in life, what I need to do with my business, etc. He listens and gives the best feedback. We talk about how fast our son is growing, how smart he is, and how we will continue to work hard to make sure he is exposed to the best. We have lunch together and our intimate time is a time of pure connection with our souls. 

Ok!!! I'm going to stop right here, because I'm not ready to reveal our love languages just yet! I'll be sharing that at the end of the series. So here are a few things I suggest you should work on in the the mean time. 

Go pick up the book, "The 5 Love Languages" it's a great read. Follow along with me in the next 4 weeks.  

Is "Quality Time" your love language and it doesn't seem like you are getting your point across? 

First, before you go fussing at your spouse about how you two aren't spending enough time together. Go sit down, get your pen and paper, and write down what QT means to you. How would you like to spend time with your spouse? What are some of the things you would like to do? Be specific because He can't read your mind and his definition of QT might be different than yours. He might want to go to the game and you might want to go shopping, then you get mad cause he takes you to the game... 

Once you figure out what QT means to you, discuss it with him. Set a date and a time and make it happen!

Remember communication is key! Until next time...

-Tru

 

 

 

Wife Wisdom Wednesday: Love Language #1 - Words of Affirmation

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It's Wife Wisdom Wednesday!!! I couldn't be more excited about this series of wife wisdom. Over the next 5 weeks, I will be sharing my thoughts and experience on the figuring out and applying love languages to your marriage or relationship as found in the book "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. I picked up this book over 6 years ago during a period of time when my husband and I needed it the most. Trust had been broken and we were both trying to put the pieces back together. One thing about real love, no matter what you go through, if you really love someone you will exhaust all options to make it work, before giving up.

In my 12 years of dating and marital bliss, I've found that there is a thin line between making or breaking a relationship and it's controlled by how you communicate with each other. In "The 5 Love Languages", Chapman discusses the importance of spouses knowing and communicating their love languages. In my very own relationship, I've found that not knowing what you or your spouses love language are will breach the lines of communication, often causing conflict and misunderstanding of each others emotions and expectations. Think about it, the ultimate goal of being married is to live happily every after right? 

Ok, so before I get into Love Language #1 - Words of Affirmation. I want to say go pick up the book, it's a great read. Follow along with me in the next 5 weeks. 

LOVE LANGUAGE #1

WORDS OF AFFIRMATION

Did you know that these two scriptures were back to back? "The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord." Proverbs 18: 21 & 22. Interesting to say the least. We have the power to speak life into our relationships. We also have the power to speak death into our relationship. Well you might say, I would never speak death into my relationship. Yeah, I said that too. Until one day, sitting in marriage counseling, sorting out our issues, the light bulb went off. I finally realized that I was part of the problem. I wasn't a good listener, I always complained about what I thought he did wrong, not recognizing the things he was doing right. I had pushed him away, death had literally set up in our marriage. When I thought I was helping him I was really hurting him. I was hurting us. What he needed from me as a wife "what is good" was affirmation. 

Looking back, I think to myself, how did I not know this? I know I'm supposed to be uplifting, encouraging, appreciative, loving, kind, humble, and patient. How did we get to this point? "The 5 Love Languages" talks about how the emotional connection and newness of being "in love" and blinded by it wears off after about 2 years. After that, you have to work at the love itself. At that point we were 3 years past that mark. Five years in this relationship thing and it started to fall apart. Where did we go wrong? I believe we didn't understand our love language. The book goes into detail on how use words of affirmation to strengthen your communication. If your spouses love language is words of affirmation, it is your responsibility to take action. Start affirming, start speaking life. Your spouse will be more receptive to connect with you if you are meeting the need of building him up. Here is an example of something I've done time and time and time again.

Me: Ugh (with attitude) you never help out around the house. I'm expected to do laundry, clean toilets, sweep and mop floors, dishes, take out the trash, find someone to mow the yard, cook sometimes...blah blah blah blah blah. I work too!

Okay, Now before I get to Quinton's response, note I always complained and when I complained there would be a quick fix. He might help out every once in a while and I might have noticed that he done so. One day we were discussing the issue and I finally had that ah ha moment. I felt so bad, thinking to myself. I can't read your mind! Why didn't you just say that! Until he expressed how he felt, I just assumed he was lazy. His response:

Quinton: Tru, when I get home from work, I just want to sit down and do nothing. Try pushing thorough 3,200 lbs of concrete in a day and tell me how you feel. When I get home I am literally tired and exhausted.

Me: *silence* Feeling embarrassed and selfish. Thinking that I have failed at my real duties of lifting him up, encouraging him. I'm complaining that he didn't take out the trash, while he is out there doing back breaking work in sometimes 100 degree weather. WOW! Baby, I'm so sorry. 

Ever sense then, I make it a point for my approach to be different. I honesty try not to complain about anything. I don't want to take life itself for granted over little things that really don't matter. So all the things I used to complain about, I don't. I just do it if it needs to be done. Our conversations go more like this.

Me: Hey baby! I hope you had a good day. How was it? Did you work hard... somedays lighter than others, especially now that he is working in a different field. 

If you know Quinton he is quite reserved and doesn't say very much. However, by being open minded and humble with how approach him when communicating, he has began to open up more than ever. He is receiving and responding to it. In return, it has allowed us to grow.

So this is what you should do this week. Ask yourself, what am I complaining about? Stop complaining and approach it differently by using words of affirmation to build up your mate this week. I would love to hear your success stories! E-mail them to tru@trunettaatwater.com and I will anonymously post success throughout this series. 

-Tru

Oh there is also a bonus this week! I've included pictures for you below to help illustrate WORDS OF AFFIRMATION.

In love with the new love. His whispers in her ear gives her butterflies every time. She looks into his eyes as his heart begins to pound. He is...

She is... experiencing that new love. The kind of love that makes you lost... in love. Thirsting for the sensation of laughter, seeking direction for the next step of, where if could be. The two are connected with every move of their hips, she talks, he walks, in their mind they find themselves stuck in the middle of this thing called love. Even without a flash light there is no mountain to high, no valley to low. He leads and she follows. He protects her and she always got his back.

You know the old saying goes, behind every good man is a good woman. He is like the night, she is like day or vise versa. When the lights go out, with that new love, if she is lost, he will find her. 

"The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit. He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord." Proverbs 18: 21 & 22.

Wife Wisdom Wednesday: Parenting Conflict

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Concern: My husband and I disagree on parenting (husband shows favoritism with our youngest, hwe) and agreeing on which activities our children should participate in. 

Question: How can we overcome these issues?

I understand that the love for your biological child may be different than a step child, however it is your duty as the chosen parent to nurture that child as much as you would your own. If you and your spouse can't come to an agreement, as the biological parent you must do more. Yes, more, pick up the slack. Is it fair? My daddy always says, "life isn't fair" but the one thing you don't want to happen is for any of your children to feel like they aren't loved as much as the other. 

When we accepted the roles as a parent for our biological and/or step children it is our responsible to BUILD them. There are many reasons why parents may disagree on what type of activities their children participate it. It could be financial issues, a problem with work/life balance, or maybe even just because you don't won't them too. Well, in BUILDING our children, it's important to expose them to different environments that will allow them to grow into the person they are supposed to be. These activities could be sports, academics, music, religion, etc. All of these activities assist in building a foundation of knowledge into your child. You can never learn or experience too much of anything positive, especially if you can afford it financially. If you can't afford extra curricular activities, come up with creative ways for your child to learn. God created an amazing planet for us to explore, so even it is taking them out into the middle of the woods to learn basis survival skills is all you can do, you have succeeded.  Never limit your child's learning. If other spouse doesn't agree, find out why? Are there valid reasons or just excuses. 

Example: Problem: Parents disagree with their son playing soccer, because they know for a fact that the soccer coach is abusive to his wife. Solution: Find another soccer team, with a coach you are satisfied with. Problem: Parents disagree with their son playing soccer because the soccer games conflict with the time of your favorite TV show. Solution: Stop making excuses, if your children wants to be apart of something, go the extra mile to make it happen. 

As I always say, being married is a partnership, their should always be open communication and find an common ground on the things that you disagree on, even when it comes to our children. Figure out the problem and find a solution. 

As a husband and wife team, work together so you can be fruitful for your children emotionally, spiritually, and financially. Give your children something to look forward to. Shower them with love and kindness. Be the example that you would want them to be. Causing unnecessary conflict, because of our own lazy intentions is not acceptable. 

"For you shall eat [the fruit] of the labor of your hands; happy (blessed, fortunate, enviable) shall you be, and it shall be well with you. Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine in the innermost parts of your house, your children shall be like olive plants around about your table." Psalm 128:2-3

-Tru