I asked Quinton, "If our marriage was a Fairy-tale, what would you name it? He said, "After the Storm".
It's amazing that we are pretty much on the same page in this journey, because I have been thinking for weeks that our book would be called Atwater After Dark.
When I think about fairy-tales, I have always remembered the happy ending and never really put much emphasis on the mess that brings the story to a moment of happy ending bliss. With Cinderella it ended with a kiss and with Tiana the frog was her prince, but what about the evil step sisters, the magical spells, and witchcraft?
How quickly we forget when we fall in love that evil and tricks of the enemy still exist. We get married, prepare for our happily ever after, live through life, and hope that love never really fails. Then when love does begin to fail we find ourselves asking the question... How in the world did this end up in my fairy-tale? You see, fairy-tales have always been make believe, so in reality it doesn't seem possible that shit could happen to me.
Oh but it did and because of it, I have learned a lot about life, love, and happy endings.
Marriage really is a Fairy-tale.
There is a charming prince (husband), a beautiful princess (wife), and the tricks of the enemy. Then there is a God. For 12 years, I as a wife lived for the fairy-tale ending. Being a hopeless romantic, I never gave up on my marriage being perfect. Even in it's imperfections, my relationship and my husband were perfect for me. Then came the enemy, he brewed up a storm that seemed to destroy everything. I mean everything! There was nothing happy about it and it was all coming to an end. We found ourselves being the exact opposite of love in 1st Corinthians.
"Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Then there was God. In the middle of our storm, there was God.
I learned there was a PART of the story that I failed to prepare for. Even though I knew there would be a happy ending and that real love never fails, I now know that there will be storms that we can't control. Our perfections will become imperfections. The good thing is the story never ends. When the enemy is attacking your marriage, your fairy-tale, God is still working miracles. No weapon formed will ever prosper with love.
Here is what I want you to see:
Even in Corinthians we stop at "love never fails..."
However it goes on to say:
"For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we but a poor reflection as in a mirror: then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part: then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love." 1 Corinthians 13:9-13
Our fairy-tale is called Atwater After the Storm. We loved, we became the opposite of love and with God we survived the storm. We grew up. Those childish fairy-tale dreams disappeared and real unconditional love appeared. We are now face to face with our truth, that faith, hope, and love will see us through.
Marriage really is a fairy-tale, but don't forget the part that happens before the happy ending. Instead prepare yourself to embrace the history and unlock and enjoy all of it's mysteries.